Many couples find complacency in Fall and Spring. They are just surviving in their marriage. Everything is about a day-to-day routine, equal performance and responsibilities, priorities seldom include regularly scheduled marriage maintenance activities. Kids sometimes supersede the marriage as well as work or even church ministries.
Hope is lost for a thriving relationship because both parties have developed a belief that the other party can not change, and that the other party needs to be changed.
The truth is, if the marriage is surviving or diving, the problem is both of you. The marriage belongs to both parties and Christ. He holds you both responsible. The head, the man, has been placed in the leadership role, but you both are responsible for doing your part. your part is 100%, not 50%.
Recommendations to start doing now - even when you are upset:
- Pray together every morning when you wake up
- Pray together every night before you sleep
- Say "I Love You", hug, and kiss each time you depart from each other
- Go to church and Bible study together weekly